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Understanding Social Exchange Theory in Relationships: A Simplified Guide
Amy Breen
@amybreen_ikkr
Social Exchange Theory: Relationships as Profit and Loss
Think of your relationships like a bank account - you're constantly making deposits (rewards) and withdrawals (costs). Social Exchange Theory, developed by Thibault and Kelley, argues that we judge our relationship satisfaction based on whether we're making a profit (rewards minus costs).
Rewards might include companionship, emotional support, intimacy, or just having someone to binge-watch Netflix with. Costs could be the time you invest, stress from arguments, energy spent compromising, or missing out on other opportunities. The theory suggests we're basically relationship accountants, constantly calculating whether we're getting a good deal.
Your comparison level (CL) acts like your relationship standards - it's what you think you deserve based on past experiences and what you've seen in films, books, and social media. Meanwhile, your comparison level for alternatives (CLalt) is how attractive other options look. If your current relationship profit drops below these levels, you're more likely to jump ship.
Key Insight: The theory predicts we only stay in relationships when they're more rewarding than the alternatives - even if we're currently satisfied!
The theory outlines four stages: sampling (exploring what's out there), bargaining (negotiating early relationship terms), commitment (settling into stability), and institutionalisation . Each stage involves different calculations of costs and benefits.
Research support comes from Kurdeck's study showing that the most committed partners perceived the most rewards, fewest costs, and found alternatives least attractive. However, critics like Carr and Mills argue this approach is too cold and calculating for romantic relationships, which are based on genuine care rather than profit motives.
The theory faces several limitations: it's reductionist (ignoring emotional complexity), assumes we're always self-interested, and struggles with the direction of cause and effect - Argyle suggests we only start counting costs and benefits after we're already dissatisfied, not before.
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Understanding Social Exchange Theory in Relationships: A Simplified Guide
Amy Breen
@amybreen_ikkr
Ever wondered why some relationships thrive while others fail? Social Exchange Theory treats relationships like business deals, suggesting we constantly weigh up what we're getting versus what we're giving to decide if it's worth staying.
Social Exchange Theory: Relationships as Profit and Loss
Think of your relationships like a bank account - you're constantly making deposits (rewards) and withdrawals (costs). Social Exchange Theory, developed by Thibault and Kelley, argues that we judge our relationship satisfaction based on whether we're making a profit (rewards minus costs).
Rewards might include companionship, emotional support, intimacy, or just having someone to binge-watch Netflix with. Costs could be the time you invest, stress from arguments, energy spent compromising, or missing out on other opportunities. The theory suggests we're basically relationship accountants, constantly calculating whether we're getting a good deal.
Your comparison level (CL) acts like your relationship standards - it's what you think you deserve based on past experiences and what you've seen in films, books, and social media. Meanwhile, your comparison level for alternatives (CLalt) is how attractive other options look. If your current relationship profit drops below these levels, you're more likely to jump ship.
Key Insight: The theory predicts we only stay in relationships when they're more rewarding than the alternatives - even if we're currently satisfied!
The theory outlines four stages: sampling (exploring what's out there), bargaining (negotiating early relationship terms), commitment (settling into stability), and institutionalisation . Each stage involves different calculations of costs and benefits.
Research support comes from Kurdeck's study showing that the most committed partners perceived the most rewards, fewest costs, and found alternatives least attractive. However, critics like Carr and Mills argue this approach is too cold and calculating for romantic relationships, which are based on genuine care rather than profit motives.
The theory faces several limitations: it's reductionist (ignoring emotional complexity), assumes we're always self-interested, and struggles with the direction of cause and effect - Argyle suggests we only start counting costs and benefits after we're already dissatisfied, not before.
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This app is really great. There are so many study notes and help [...]. My problem subject is French, for example, and the app has so many options for help. Thanks to this app, I have improved my French. I would recommend it to anyone.
Samantha Klich
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Wow, I am really amazed. I just tried the app because I've seen it advertised many times and was absolutely stunned. This app is THE HELP you want for school and above all, it offers so many things, such as workouts and fact sheets, which have been VERY helpful to me personally.
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I think it’s very much worth it and you’ll end up using it a lot once you get the hang of it and even after looking at others notes you can still ask your Artificial intelligence buddy the question and ask to simplify it if you still don’t get it!!! In the end I think it’s worth it 😊👍 ⚠️Also DID I MENTION ITS FREEE YOU DON’T HAVE TO PAY FOR ANYTHING AND STILL GET YOUR GRADES IN PERFECTLY❗️❗️⚠️
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Brad T
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Not only did it help me find the answer but it also showed me alternative ways to solve it. I was horrible in math and science but now I have an a in both subjects. Thanks for the help🤍🤍
David K
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The app's just great! All I have to do is enter the topic in the search bar and I get the response real fast. I don't have to watch 10 YouTube videos to understand something, so I'm saving my time. Highly recommended!
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In school I was really bad at maths but thanks to the app, I am doing better now. I am so grateful that you made the app.
Greenlight Bonnie
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I found this app a couple years ago and it has only gotten better since then. I really love it because it can help with written questions and photo questions. Also, it can find study guides that other people have made as well as flashcard sets and practice tests. The free version is also amazing for students who might not be able to afford it. Would 100% recommend
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This app is phenomenal down to the correct info and the various topics you can study! I greatly recommend it for people who struggle with procrastination and those who need homework help. It has been perfectly accurate for world 1 history as far as I’ve seen! Geometry too!
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The app is very easy to use and well designed. I have found everything I was looking for so far and have been able to learn a lot from the presentations! I will definitely use the app for a class assignment! And of course it also helps a lot as an inspiration.
Stefan S
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This app is really great. There are so many study notes and help [...]. My problem subject is French, for example, and the app has so many options for help. Thanks to this app, I have improved my French. I would recommend it to anyone.
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Android user
Wow, I am really amazed. I just tried the app because I've seen it advertised many times and was absolutely stunned. This app is THE HELP you want for school and above all, it offers so many things, such as workouts and fact sheets, which have been VERY helpful to me personally.
Anna
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I think it’s very much worth it and you’ll end up using it a lot once you get the hang of it and even after looking at others notes you can still ask your Artificial intelligence buddy the question and ask to simplify it if you still don’t get it!!! In the end I think it’s worth it 😊👍 ⚠️Also DID I MENTION ITS FREEE YOU DON’T HAVE TO PAY FOR ANYTHING AND STILL GET YOUR GRADES IN PERFECTLY❗️❗️⚠️
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Greenlight Bonnie
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I found this app a couple years ago and it has only gotten better since then. I really love it because it can help with written questions and photo questions. Also, it can find study guides that other people have made as well as flashcard sets and practice tests. The free version is also amazing for students who might not be able to afford it. Would 100% recommend
Aubrey
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Marco B
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THE QUIZES AND FLASHCARDS ARE SO USEFUL AND I LOVE THE SCHOOLGPT. IT ALSO IS LITREALLY LIKE CHATGPT BUT SMARTER!! HELPED ME WITH MY MASCARA PROBLEMS TOO!! AS WELL AS MY REAL SUBJECTS ! DUHHH 😍😁😲🤑💗✨🎀😮
Elisha
iOS user
This app is phenomenal down to the correct info and the various topics you can study! I greatly recommend it for people who struggle with procrastination and those who need homework help. It has been perfectly accurate for world 1 history as far as I’ve seen! Geometry too!
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